Are you one of those people who think you are perfect? Every step you take is carefully calculated?

Do you put yourself under pressure because you think people are always watching you and you must be a role model?

You don’t always have to be sure of who you are otherwise there would be nothing to discover.

Question is, Is it society putting you under the pressure or is it all in your mind?

From childhood

www-senabemthunzi-com-9Some people are raised in families where they are expected to be role models to their siblings and neighbors, they are carefully guarded around what they can and cannot do. They did their homework on time, got good grades and were behind closed doors protected.

Throughout their childhood they could not play in the streets and get dirty like other children, they were always clean and never put a foot out of place.


There are times when you have followed the rules by the book, gone to school, gotten the best jobs and and gotten married and raised a family as expected. but the question is, whose rules are you following are they yours or society?

You find people for years live the life that they think society wants them to be, but then start having a double life! It does get difficult to put up the appearances at time.

Why cant we accept that people will be true to themselves, we should not try to hide the real person. Does it not hurt to live a lie?

When someone follows their heart people tend to say its mid life crisis, is it perhaps not just the real person coming out??

The embarrassment

The problem when your entire life has been on a pedestal is that when you put one foot out of place the person maybe so embarrassed and beat themselves up so much because they think it is the end of the world? Which for another very stable person would seem quite petty and nothing to write home about.

If this person accidentally has one too many cocktails at a function and has to be transported home as they cannot be trusted to drive themselves, when the find out what happened the next day they may be shattered and not want to see those people for months! For other people this seems like a scene they have seen so many times! It’s no big deal really.

www-senabemthunzi-com-10If this person falls pregnant while still at university, this is seen as a family embarrassment, it has happened to a lot of other people! it is not the first time! Get up and raise the child as normal, yes its not ideal for some people but life happens!

This does not define your character, it is indeed just life!

Life is a constant adventure not knowing is half the fun!

Don’t be so hard on yourself for not having it together all the time, for not knowing all the answers. You don’t always have to be sure of who you are, otherwise there would be nothing left to discover.

Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing whats going to happen next.

The people who matter with always love you and support your decisions. Don’t beat yourself up too much. Create a life that you love and can thrive in! My mentors helped me to see life from a different angle.

That little child never really came out to play, they were always too uptight, at some point the real colors will come out!

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